I like the big yellow envelope for new messages notification - it's much easier to see than the little grey one. Thank you to the powers that be that restored the gold envelope and made it BIG for us old folks who need that to SEE IT!
We had a LOT of requests to make the PM envelope stand out more after the software upgrade -- moderators included.
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